Saturday, May 22, 2010
NO MORE CHRISTIAN NICE GIRL by Paul Coughlin & Jennifer D. Degler, PhD - BOOK REVIEW
The subtitle says it all - "When just being nice-instead of good-hurts you, your family, and your friends."
From the back cover copy: "Tired of doing all you can for others while your relationships remain stuck in neutral-or are headed in reverse? Paul Coughlin and psychologist Jennifer Degler show how being nice can harm you and drain the life out of your relationships. They explore the keys to fulfillment at home, work, church, and even in the bedroom. You'll discover that emulating the real Jesus is the key to transforming from a Christian Nice Girl into an authentic, powerful woman of loving faith."
I found that the authors cover the topic thoroughly. They help the reader to relate to and apply the concepts through the story of Nicole, Christian Nice Girl. Further aids to practical application include sidebars, discussion questions, and an appendix with 81 incidences from the gospels where Jesus is "not so nice."
The authors distinguish between being "nice" and being "good." It is the authors' contention that we learn to act nice through social and cultural pressures.
The effects of being "nice" wreck our friendships and family relationships, mess up our marriages, steal the , and cripple our careers. If not recognized, being "nice" can attract "Mr. Wrong."
God wants us to be tender, yet tough, bold and assertive rather than seeking to please others. This book will help us to be the women God longs us to be. I highly recommend it.
Paul Coughlin is a bestselling author, international speaker, and founder of The Protectors, a faith-based and values-based solution to adolescent bullying. Jennifer Degler, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, life coach, and a frequent speaker at women's events and marriage retreats.
The book is available at http://amazon.com/ and http://christianbooks.com/ and through your favourite bookseller from Bethany House, a division of Baker Publishing Group. A copy of this book was provided by Graf-Martin Communications Inc. for review purposes.