Tuesday, February 15, 2011
SOMEONE'S SON by Brenda Rhodes - Book Review
In her younger years she married and had two children, a daughter Wendi and a son Ronal Paul. She is now single and has one living child, her daughter, who is married and one grandson and three step-grandchildren.
You can find Brenda at http://brendarhodes.com/
Tell me a little bit about your background and your family.
I was born in Houston. Came to Dallas when I was 11 because my Dad was starting the family business: Bowling & Billiard Supplies of Dallas, Inc. Have lived in the Dallas area ever since.
I married at 18 and had my first child, my daughter Wendi, also at 18. My son, Ronal Paul, was born three years later. My marriage was very troubled and failed in 1971 the year my son was born. I re-married my ex-husband in 1973 when he was incarcerated for armed robbery - yes, you read that right. I believed he had hit rock bottom and had come back to God. That marriage failed again in 1977 about one year after he came home. married again in 1980 - 1983 to a man I later found out had molested my son. Yes, you read that right too.
In 1981 I brought my mother into my home because of her failing health and mental/emotional condition. This arrangement was very hard on my kids. She passed away in 1989.
I married again in 1991 until 1998. Bad track record !!
My Dad was my hero who passed away when I was 27 he was only 59 - in 1976. I have one old brother, Ronnie, who became my business partner in our family business for 25 years and we remain partners in real estate. We sold the business in 2001 and are now partially retired - we stay busy!!
I became a Christian as a child, but had no mentoring. I walked close to God in my twenties, but walked away from God when my Dad died. Came back to God on January 20, 1999 during the crisis with my son's drug addiction, homosexuality and HIV status.
Was that a "little bit"?
What do you like to do in your spare time? Hobbies?
These days I don't have much spare time. I am a group leader in BSF (Bible Study Fellowship) a Stephen Minister (a one to one crisis care giving ministry) and I work part-time.
For fun: I pick up my grandson, Lorenzo, from school on Wednesdays and spend time with him and Wendi (my daughter) and her family.
I keep my step-great-grandson, Evan, every other Thursday.
I enjoy painting pottery and I have too many Munchkin cats which I breed. They have little short legs and are adorable.
I love any and all family get togethers. We have a lake house on Cedar Creek lake that we enjoy spending time at whenever we can.
Love love love holidays and cooking for our family and friends.
If you could have any superpower, what would it be and why?
This is a hard one. Let me think . . .(smell the smoke?) This is really hard because I serve a super God who is all powerful and I depend on Him, so what would assist Him? Hmmmmmmmm I know! If I could fly I could get to hurting people faster and bring them the good news of our Lord Jesus and God's love.
What has God been teaching you lately?
Patience - that one was easy! The process of getting this book out was very long and I struggled with waiting. Well meaning people would say, "God's timing is perfect." Yeah yeah yeah - I struggled with waiting - did I already say that?
When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
A hair stylist, like most little girls I loved to "play" with my own hair and that of friends. I was pretty good. One day the dad of one of my friends said, "Oh, Brenda, you can't do that, you're too heavy to stand on your feet all day." Busted my bubble. So, I've always sat at a desk.
Where are you headed next?
I don't know and don't care - I'm following my Lord wherever He leads.
How did you get involved in writing?
I am not a writer or an author. God called me to write this book to tell my story of His love and faithfulness and His redeeming power. So I got involved because God made me! It took me two years to surrender to Him.
What's the most difficult part of the writing process for you?
Proof reading and editing - then proof reading again - then editing again - then proof reading again.........I think I've read Someone's Son a dozen or more times. Want me to stand up and recite it to you by heart?
What part of the writing process do you enjoy the most?
Since my book is a true story of personal and family trauma and crisis, the most fullment I received was feeling the presence of the Holy Spirit reveal what words to use to express the truth without being too harsh or too revealing of myself or others. To cry as I wrote and feel God's healing of my heart in the process. To know this is not me, but God. The feeling of obedience is wonderful.
How do you find time to write?
I' m not a real structured or self-disciplined person so I didn't have a designignated time each day to write. I wrote when I felt compelled to and God would cover me with alone time without interruptions. Many times, Mary DeMuth, my co-writer-ghost writer, would email me questions about specific things or times in my life: and off I would go. Not having a full time job anymore helps a lot.
What would you say to someone who wants to become a published author?
Pray pray pray - then pray some more. And be willing to work hard.
Where did you get the idea for the book? What compelled you to write it?
.We have pretty much covered this. My book is a true story of personal trials, the toughest being my son's self-destructive death over an eight year period of drug abuse. God compelled me to "Tell your story. Tell others of my love and faithfulness" which eventually became my book, Someone's Son.
What are the major themes of the book?
Mary Demuth felt we should tell of my childhood and young adulthood struggles with my mother's mental/emotional illness and my failed marriages. Along with my love for my Dad, although he was not perfect.
My wonderful children Wendi and Ronal Paul. Ronal Paul being such a thoughtful, kind, considerate and absolutely wonderful son.
The heartbreak of watching his life turn to homosexuality and drug addiction which led quickly to HIV status.
The effects of his choices not only on me, but the whole family since we all worked together in our family business
My fall into deep depression.
God's redemption of me.
Victory in Jesus even in the eventual death of my beloved, precious only son.
What kind of research did you have to do for the book?
Since this is a true story, not much. But, I did have to learn some details of my son's life that no mother wants to know in order to express to readers how deep his fall and how great God's redemption can be.
How did you know you were ready to write this book?
I knew God was urging me to do so, but I resisted out of fear of failing Him. It was on my 60th birthday, two years ago, that I realized I was so afraid of failing God that I was failing God. My eyes were opened to my lack of faith in Him and I surrendered. And, guess what, He provided everything I needed immediately!! Starting with Mary DeMuth as my "guide" through the process.
What do you hope readers will take away from your book?
This is the easiest question of all! My heart's desire and prayer is for readers to see God's redemption and His love and faithfulness as He carried me and my son through the fire.
To bring glory to God for all He has done and is still doing in my life and for my family.
I will rejoice in Him always!
Brenda Rhodes, moved by God to write from the depths of her own personal crisis, has given us a message of hope. God is the Redeemer. Her theme throughout the book is "REJOICE".
I was interested to learn that Brenda is a Stephen Minister. I am also involved in Stephen Ministry, reaching out one-on-one to people in crisis. This is a book which have no hesitation in recommending to my ministry colleagues. Thank you, Brenda, for your willingness to become vulnerable. And thanks to Mary DeMuth for her involvement in bringing this book to publication.This book is published by WinePressPublishing.
Thanks to the publisher for providing a review copy.